A Womans' Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating

Us ladies are so eager to get to know a man online that we sometimes forget the Number One Rule of Dating - Don't Be Too Eager!

Of course you can be interested, passionate and involved, but there's a line you must not cross if you want to see any success with the guy on the other line. Unfortunately for us emotionally involved women, many men find it a turn off if you want to put the relationship into fast-forward.

Here are some Golden Rules to stick to when you're just getting to know each other:

- While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. His eyes will glaze over and he'll fall asleep. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details, then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. Besides, you want to keep a bit of mystery. Keep him wanting more.

For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him.

- Never, ever, EVER lie. Lies always will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you, even come to love you for exactly the person you are.

- Don't be too eager. It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off. They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don't mean play hard-to-get. I mean, don't push for a face-to-face meeting. Don't email them or IM them too frequently. Play it safe and play it cool.

Don't forget to keep some mystery. It's better to keep a man wanting more, than to overload him with either too much information or too many emotional demands.

Dating is not a race, but more of a leisurely walk. Enjoy every moment of it.

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